A relationship with a narcissist may get your mental well-being at stake.
Narcissism is a personality type where the person is so self-absorbed that he wants to hear praises for him all the time. Such a person lacks empathy and is self-centered. He feels as if he rules the people around him and is very selfish.
We call such a person to have a “Narcissistic Personality Disorder”. This term was coined in 1968. Only 1% of the population is found to have it, but nearly everyone is on the spectrum.
Napoleon Bonaparte is considered one of the most narcissistic famous people of all time. Heard of the terms “Napoleon Complex” or “Napoleon Syndrome”? His Narcissistic Personality disorder is from where they are generated.
Whenever we are opting for the beginning of a new relationship, be it in the form of a spouse, friend, acquaintance, or co-worker, we want it to be perfect and beautiful. It shall be something that makes us elated and satisfied and shall act as a stress buster. But if any of these relationships turn out to be a narcissist, then it becomes a dark, gross nightmare. Only YOU can pull yourself out of it.
4 Tips To Follow When In A Relationship With A Narcissist
1. Do not blame yourself for a narcissistic person’s behavior
A narcissistic person will always try to belittle you and will end up digging faults in each and every action. If things are going bad for someone else’s narcissistic attributes, then it is not you to be blamed. Always remember this.
2. Design your own coping mechanism
If by hook or by crook, you have to be in a relationship with a narcissist, then it is better that you design a coping mechanism first thing. Do not let that person poke his nose in your business and do not let him in your personal space, which everybody is entitled to. It is your right to stand by it.
3. Stay calm and composed-when in a relationship with a narcissist
If a narcissist is arguing with you, then do not lose your cool. Take deep breaths and walk off. Treat yourself to something you love doing. You deserve it. Go to the movies, buy yourself the latest gadget you were eyeing, meet your old friends, and go on a long drive. Weigh your words before criticizing them as they cannot take it constructively at all and things may aggravate.
4. Prove your point and stick to your stance
If your narcissistic partner, co-worker, or friend keeps on belittling you, your efforts to keep the relationship afloat don’t matter to them, they make you feel like a piece of shit, and humiliate you in private or public then it is about time for you to stand for yourself and talk to them in this matter. If they listen to you, then do ask them to come out of this personality disorder of theirs.
How to treat narcissistic personality disorder?
If you are in a relationship with a narcissist, then discuss with them about taking psychotherapy sessions. Having talked about it will only prove to get them out of it. There are no medications for NPD. It will help them to improve their:
- relationship with not just you but other people on their “attacking radar”
- personality remarkably and withstand criticisms easily.
There is a but to it!
This kind of personality disorder takes years to see any considerable improvements. So, you have to be by their side throughout the journey and help the evil budding narcissism plant to die down with time.
What to do if you are victimized by a narcissistic person?
If the person suffering from narcissism agrees on getting help on your advice, even before that you yourself need help. As you would be mentally and emotionally drained unknowingly. If you are tossing or turning all night long, become restless and anxiety and depression hit you hard now and then, it is time to go and seek help professionally.
When it’s time to say goodbye to a relationship with a narcissist?
If the narcissistic person keeps on name-calling, harassing, physically assaulting you, and butchering your self-esteem and mental piece, then this is the time to call it all off.
Takeaway Points
Narcissism is a personality disorder, in which the person has a very bossy, unapproachable, selfish, mean, and self-conceited trait. If you get into a relationship with a narcissist, then you have to follow the steps discussed above. Try talking that person in for getting treated through taking psychiatric sessions. Do not be a silent sufferer, and when you find that it’s high time, then just walk off. Get yourself into a new, healthy relationship.
You Deserve It!!